20 Surprisingly Simple Rules and Tools for a Great Family by Dr. Steve Stephens teaches the reader how to raise a healthy Christian family. The most important and most frequent point he tried to make is this: large families make organized and well-detailed plans. Good families plan everything together, from dreams to vacations to goals. The author also says that the key to a great family is for parents not to be too overbearing, critical or controlling, and at the same time not to be too distant. Good parents must learn to admit their mistakes. It is well known that no one is perfect, but parents tend to hold themselves and their children to unattainable standards. If parents admitted their faults and apologized to their children, their children would forgive easily and learn that mistakes are okay. Good parents know that they look for “golden moments” with their children. Planning ahead for time to talk with your children and ask insightful questions is always a good idea. Parents must also learn to encourage their children. Many parents discourage their children to convince them to succeed, but this idea is wrong. Instead, parents should encourage their children, but control their attitude and learn to use kind words when addressing their children. Parents must remember to follow up with kind actions and encourage their children to achieve their goals. Always remember, the child will follow your example. In chapter 5 Have Fun the author talks about the importance of organizing fun family evenings. Going to big events like a local fair or even just going out to dinner is a good way to start. Remember to laugh! Most parents don't know their children very well. A good parent knows that family members grow stronger and knows how to ... middle of paper ... argue and learn to resolve arguments. Remember; do not take sides in your children's fights. Siblings fight often and it's not something you can avoid. Pray for and with your children, as this will strengthen your bonds. Make a list so you know what to pray for. Create new traditions, but continue to practice old ones. Traditions are an excellent thing to have. Create traditions to celebrate and remember. Traditions will help your family grow closer and build faith. Learn to let go of the things you can't control. Know what to let go of and know that your children will not be young forever. In conclusion, good families must understand each other. Know that even if you follow these rules, your family will never be perfect. Be slow to anger and accept mistakes, but above all, show your love. In the long run, it's the little things that your kids will remember.