Understanding grief and the grieving process may not ease the pain you are experiencing right now. However, acknowledging the grieving process can help stop the sheer panic of not knowing what will happen next. Many people use the words grief and bereavement interchangeably. These two terms, although similar, have different meanings. Pain is what we feel, the pain in our heart that is so hard to describe. Mourning is the action we take, such as crying, expressing our grief over the loss, or dressing in black. Webster's 1828 English Dictionary completely defines pain in a very definitive way. “1. Mental pain produced by loss, misfortune, injury, or evil of any kind; sadness; regret. We feel pain when we lose a friend, when we suffer a loss, when we consider ourselves hurt and, out of sympathy, we feel pain for the misfortunes of others.2. The mental pain caused by our bad conduct; pain or regret for having done something wrong; pain that accompanies repentance. We feel pain when we have offended or hurt a friend, and the awareness of having offended the Supreme Being fills the penitent heart with the most poignant pain. The word "cry" is poignantly defined by Mr. Webster thus:1 . To express pain or sadness; grieve; be grieved. Grief can be expressed with tears or audible sounds, or with sobs, sighs, or silent internal pain. Abraham came to mourn for Sarah and to weep. Gen 23. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Mat 5.2. Wear the usual dress of pain. We cry in black. We cry for maybe an hour, then we cry for a year. ”Not all pain is the same and in this book we will address many of the different faces of pain. There was a t... in the center of the card... and only one trapped – not them. Forgiveness is not the same as forgiveness, but it helps us look at things in a different way. Our loved ones who have passed away would never expect us to be stuck and not feeling good about ourselves. It's important to take time to feel good; LAUGH; and make new friends. You may be tempted to blame yourself for surviving while your loved one died. This somehow may make sense to us even if it is not logical. If you feel this way, take some time and forgive yourself for living. Take the time to reciprocate. We all have time, energy and effort that we can dedicate to others and make a difference for someone else. Getting involved improves your life and helps you move forward. Sometimes one of the most healing things we can do for ourselves is to help someone else who is unable to repay us for our kindness.