One of my biggest stressors is time management. I work about two jobs and go to school full time. When I have an hour or so between classes or work, I tend to waste most of my time. This causes me a lot of stress when I have tests and assignments due. I start lashing out at people (displaced aggression) and become very angry and very depressed. I need to start addressing the problem and there are two ways to do this. Problem-focused coping: Problem-focused coping emphasizes changing or transforming the central cause of the stress. It can be very helpful and the stressor can be changed. In this coping we reduce or eliminate the stressor. For example, in my case, a good problem-focused approach would be to work fewer hours and have more time available. Or I can go out with my friends less so that I have more time on my hands instead of wasting that precious time on small talk. Emotion-focused coping: Usually, emotion-focused coping is used when the stressor is not under control. We take control of our emotions rather than changing something about the unchanging stressor. Again, with this example, I can prepare for something much worse. I can imagine worse things happening to me; for example, what would happen if I were ill or had no family to support me? This method distracts me from overthinking it and makes me feel grateful. I can even tell myself that I'm doing pretty well in school considering all the stress I'm under. Plus school is almost over and I only have a month left to rest. But the best emotion-focused coping I've found is yoga. Relaxes your body and mind.-Another big stressor in my life right now is choosing my major. I bounced here and there... middle of the paper... I had to adapt very badly and the feeling of exclusion made me start smoking, which I now regret very much.-Sometimes a teacher asks me a question aside of the whole class, but no one raises their hand to answer. I often think I know the answer, but I don't want to be the first/only one to raise my hand. I would rather blend in with the rest of the class than raise my hand and be excluded (in that moment. I don't even care about being right or wrong). -Some everyday examples of conformity are obeying a dress code at work or school, following established company regulations, using socially acceptable behavior in public, and even following a class syllabus.*I think this is a sad reality of life. We spend all our elementary school years trying SO HARD to fit in with everyone else, and the rest of our lives trying to separate ourselves and be unique.