I read Spong's experience in a service for the recognition of the end of his marriage with Denise. I wasn't sure how she would react to this since Denise herself is divorced and her parents divorced when she was 10 years old. I asked her to tell me how she felt and tell me why. She said her heart ached as she imagined how upsetting that ceremony would be for everyone in attendance, not just the couple. She reminded me that with her divorce a lot of her pain was knowing how much it had impacted her family. There were many moments of silence during this discussion. His divorce was bitter and had unfortunate consequences on family members. He decided he didn't agree with Spong about this service. He didn't want to be a part of this and felt it wouldn't bring any closure. She also added that her ex-husband would not agree to participate either as he did not show up for the annulment process. At the end of the discussion he wanted to add that, although it wouldn't be something he would choose to do, perhaps it would be appropriate for others. He didn't think it could be harmful to be a