Being a parent you have many roles like cooking, cleaning, providing clothes, loving your child and maybe spoiling him sometimes. As a grandfather most of those responsibilities are gone and you are allowed to have fun. Cally, a grandmother in the book, loves taking her grandson to do many activities throughout the day and never feels like she has to be a mother, just a fun grandmother (MHM p,43). In the interview, Pat said, "I like being able to go to the mall and buy them ice cream without having to worry about their dinner." The ability to break rules and spoil grandchildren brings joy to grandparents because the children are happy. Grandmothers get joy from this because as a mother you worry about healthy food or washing dishes, but as a grandmother you have more time and can wait a day to do these things (MHM p,